Yellow House Homeschool

We picked Antonia up from the friends where she spent the night and zoomed over by some beautiful backroads to the friends where we were supposed to be having dinner.  We knew she was tired, but we figured in the worst case, she would be grumpy, or fall asleep on their sofa.  We did not count on her being so tired she would be physically sick.  We drove home very slowly after that, earlier than expected, and this morning we cancelled today’s social plans so that she could recover.  She has certainly been in one of those zombie-states all day.  I sometimes worry a bit that it really does show a less than normal stamina when a child needs 24 hours to recover for every day spent playing with friends – but that is how it is with her.

Since she was a mess, I let her watch a thing called Bee Movie that she brought back from her last trip to the US.  That was a bad move.  I keep thinking I have seen the dumbest movie imaginable, and I keep being wrong.  Now, I know this is not supposed to be a nature documentary but … male worker bees!?  Big butch ‘pollen jocks’!??  Yeah, those jocks are so smart, they do pollination by taking the pollen out of daisies and putting it on roses!!!  I couldn’t believe it.  (A real pollen jock is mostly interested in taking the pollen home to HER hive, anyway). And it’s a shame that one of the major premises of the movie is that our (male) hero has to choose one job for his whole life.  Because a grade school book on bees would no doubt explain that the jobs bees do are dependent on their age, and every bee eventually does every job, except the queen.  Female bees that is.  Male bees really do have only one job, and it is, as Mike so poetically put it “pollinating the eggs”.  Actually, dearest husband, they “pollinate” the queen, once in her life.  The rest of the time, they just hang out, till winter.  I guess he doesn’t know so much about ‘the birds and the bees’, after all!

So does it really matter?  Does the ever popular “bull” with a bass voice, macho habits and udders matter?  Well, this particular movie was high on a vision of patriarchal society that would make the Flintstones look progressive.  And that vision was based on a lie about nature.  I think it matters.  When you consider that if they had made a bee movie with just the same plot, but adhering to some level of truth about bees, it would have been a pick-up for little girls, instead of a put-down.  And if they just want to make up whatever they want, why use a real species at all?  What’s wrong with stripey pixies or something?

Do I think these people are maliciously promoting a questionable cultural vision at the expense of reality or do I think they’re very, very ignorant and stupid?  Either way it doesn’t look good for them.  Rant over!

Apart from that, I started teaching Antonia to knit, which went nicely.  She spent some time playing with the synth software.  It allowed her to record her voice on multiple tracks, modify it, and construct a nicely post-modernist soundtrack of herself arguing with herself, herself and herself.  It is maybe a little bit amusing the first time you hear it.  ‘Nuff said! She also made a few other little crafty things.

Antonia ended up spending the night at her friend’s house.  And I actually did the autumn cleaning of the living room: polished floors, clean windows, and a wonderful (but temporary) absence of spider webs.  Exhausting, but worth it.

I think I got about 4 hours of sleep last night.  I should have tried harder to go back to bed, instead of getting engrossed in a book.  I had a much better morning than I deserve under the circumstances.  At 9.30 I was woken by the sound of the dishwasher being emptied.  Soon there followed the rattle of dominoes – that is what Antonia uses to do her multiplication practice.  After that things went quiet.  When I woke up again, I was handed a cup of coffee.  After a while, I thought I had better turn up downstairs.  I found a pristine, brilliantly neat (and illustrated) writing exercise sitting on the table.  What a wonderful kid!  After that she did some maths and piano practice, while I swallowed coffee.  Practically all I had to do is shake myself awake enough for the parts of our reading that I read aloud.

One of the highlights of homeschooling for me right now is Antonia reading me some of Rudyard Kipling’s Just So Stories.  It’s nice to be hearing something that has some literary value and something that’s new to me (yes, I somehow missed out on these when I was a kid).  I’m enjoying the way Kipling plays with words.  These stories are just the right level for Antonia.  A few longish words that are new to her, but not so many that she loses the flow.  From now on, I’m going to try to make an effort to see that the books she reads to me are worth hearing.  She can read as much kiddie-lit as likes in her own time.

Now, she’s gone off swimming with her Dad.  Boy, you can really hear the silence.  She is brimming over with intellectualism and fine words just now.  The other day she said “This talking process is just becoming more and more interesting”!  I thought that was wonderful – but it’s a bit intense for a poor old mother who was up to the early hours.  Right now, I am supposed to be finishing off some translation work, catching up on a week’s worth of housework, and preparing for an intense weekend of socialisation, starting this evening.  In reality, I am sitting in a daze.  I have been wondering vaguely for 15 minutes whether more coffee would be a good idea, but I can’t make up my mind as the thought won’t hang around for long enough.

NB:  It would seem that I can write something vaguely resembling a sentence without engaging any long range though processes, wouldn’t it!?  Ah, the joys of automated skills.

P.S.  I managed a thought, and it is this:  routines work better for some people than other perhaps, but in this case, at this time, a routine empowered a small child to pretty much get through her day by herself.

We are still working through Suzuki piano book 1, and I suppose it is fair to say that this could be considered slow progress.  After 10 months we are nearly half way through!  As far as Antonia was concerned, that’s partly because she took a lot of moments off to pursue her own musical ideas, improvising, sounding out tunes she knew and so on.  I never wanted to push her to practice, so I figured if she was doing something on the piano, that was more than fine.  Recently, she has put a spurt on.  I consider her to be more musical than me.  She can figure out most of the melodies just by listening to the CD.  She doesn’t have as much music theory and reading background as me, which slows her down.  She is starting to be frustrated by this, so we are tackling it.

As for me, I could technically handle all the pieces in book 1 to start with – after a fashion.  But I just had my moment of epiphany.  Suddenly, something happened and I could play everything so much better.  I don’t even know how to describe it, but its something to do with left and right hand coordination or independence or something.  Because it’s so exciting for me, I’m no longer marking time on Book 1 to keep with Antonia, but zooming through it in excitement to get to Book 2. And I’ve also been realising that I am probably more musical than I ever gave myself credit for.

I pretty much taught myself music and I’m afraid I miseducated myself by an overeliance on reading music.  I was a brilliant reader very early on, and reading music was never an issue for me.  Unfortunately it distracted me from listening, remembering, repeating and analysing pieces.  I knew I wanted something more listening based for Antonia.  In Suzuki, it’s important to listen to the pieces (on a CD), and to memorise them.  The pieces are longer and more technical than is usually found in beginners methods.  You do need to really work on them, especially if you are a genuine beginner, not a false one like me.  Each one contains a new piece of technical – and musical – information.  I also have the teacher’s guide.  I kind of laughed when it said that children can usually play the pieces by ear before being taught them, and that they can play a basic accompaniment to an original piece without being taught explicitly.  It seems like a small miracle to me that my daughter can acutally do this!  She has absorbed the musical ideas and uses them in her own improvisations!

As for me – I know I get no bragging rights for being very competent at the first half of Suzuki book 1.  Lots of 5 year olds can do the same as me.  But progress is progress so I am bragging anyway.  Suzuki has renewed my hope of one day being a reasonably good piano player – especially when I look ahead to Book 2 and drool over the ‘real’ classical music in there.

From time to time, I ask Antonia if there is anything in particular she would like to learn.  Not too often, because her projects are usually quite ambitious!  Two years ago, it was “learn all about science”.  Last year, it was “write poetry and play the piano”.  To some extent these things got done, though they are never-ending in a way.

This year, she said: “This is sort of a joke, Mummy, so promise not to laugh too much” .

I told her I wouldn’t laugh.

“Well this year I would like to learn politic (sic)”

I still did not laugh.  I was impressed!  This is yet another side effect of that history-readiness that kicked in.  A whole new vista of human life is opening before her.

The other big change this year is that she is going to spend all Wednesday at, well, … it’s kind of a day camp for Wednesdays.  French kids don’t have school on Wednesdays, but their parents usually work, so… there is a thriving Wednesday activity culture.  When we started homeschooling, we had seen this as a potential solution to the socialisation issue.  It has to be said that few kids are available in the week time, and as they get older it gets worse.

Until recently, Antonia was not happy around groups of children, but it seems she enjoyed her three days of day camp last week and is ready for some more.  There are pros and cons of course.  She comes home very tired and very late, but she gets a big dose of socialising in.  It’s a regular commitment that inevitably limits other possibilities. Since I’m starting some studying again, it’s handy for me, except I would like to make sure that the errands all get done on that day.

We will see how it works out for the autumn term.  There are all kinds of these Wednesday camps, but we deliberately chose one which is very free and easy-going.  There are small groups and activities are offered, but not compulsory.  If the kids want to just play, they can.  Our expectation is that it will be like a playdate, supervised by babysitters.  We shall see.

Whew!  I’ve just been reading the latest Charlotte Mason blog carnival, which is all about planning and scheduling.  I am so impressed, overawed, in fact.  I am almost surprised that nobody is using an actual project manager to plan out their kids’ education.  I was halfway through reading when I felt prompted to post our actual schedule below.  Then I realised that there is a difference between describing what you do and how you arrive at that.  So I thought I would try again.

The way I set about homeschooling is almost more Charlotte Mason than what we actually do.  I have a principle, towards which I am tending, and it automatically directs my actions. I have an idea of the educated adult that I would like to help my daughter become.  That applies to knowledge, skills, habits, character and so on.  I don’t usually find it difficult to see what my daughter could/should work on next.  Sometimes it is fiddly to find the right resource or method, to judge whether the moment is precisely right for something or how long it might take. For example, I feel a study of history is important, but I waited a long time to introduce it, and made a number of trial attempts, before she proved to be ready for it.

I don’t plan actual content in the sense of deciding that we will study say ‘forests’, ‘magnets’ and ‘ancient Greece’.  Themes and content seem to arise spontaneously, and I make no particular efforts to plan or control them, other than finding the resources at the right moment.  At the moment we seem to be entering a ’seas and oceans’ theme.  My mind is gravitating towards the various novels, poems, documentary films and other resources we might have concerning the sea, and entertaining the possibilities of boating trips.  But there is no plan that says we will have read x by Christmas.  My principle doesn’t demand that specific content areas have to be covered at specific times, only that our daughter should have a broad basis of knowledge by the time she is in her teens.

My second big principle has to do with how I think a child’s daily life is best spent.  I don’t necessarily think exactly the same lifestyle is best for all children, but I try to find the best one for my daughter.  There is a certain balance between structure and free time, work and play, attention to things that have to be done, time in which you have to think of your own activity by yourself, social time and outdoor time, quiet time and family time….  that works for us. The amount and type of ’school’ she does has as much to do with what I consider to be the optimum lifestyle for her, as with what I think she needs to learn.

I find that with those two principles in front of me, I don’t have to do an awful lot of planning as such.  I do spend time thinking about and refining my principles, and obviously, as she gets older, the ‘ideal daily life’ changes anyway.  I do tweak what we do accordingly.  I do record things so that I see what really is happening, and what content is getting covered.   But otherwise, I more or less make it up as I go along.

My homeschooling plan for the next year is in shape.  I wonder how long for?  It seems to add up to about 12 hours of formal schooling, mostly spread over 4 days.  It is a mixture of Charlotte Mason inspired methods and what I think we need.  Here is what it looks like at the moment:

• Vocabulary memory work (Antonia is very bad at names, no matter how often she hears them!) – 10 minutes
• Math: I give a short presentation of the work to be done, she does it, then we go over any issues.  If there is something really new to learn, then we may work together for the whole session – 30 minutes.  During this time, I do the housework!
• Maths memory work or drill: currently, this is multiplication tables, it has been telling the time and will be typing later on.  There is always something to learn! – 10 minutes
• Spelling in French – 10 minutes

That is a total of one hour, and then there is a break!

• Science + narration: this is still experimental, because I am looking for a good source that is challenging at the same time – 10 minutes
• History or any non-fiction in French, read by her + narration + follow-up depending on interest – we do Story of the World in History on 2 days and are currently doing a book called La Mer in French on the other 2 days – 15- 20 minutes or more depending on interest.
• Journalling in English, occasionally a letter instead: any subject or story she likes, or I will suggest one – about 20 minutes.

Clearly, I have fallen into a pattern of putting the more ‘technical’ stuff first and the literary stuff second.  Must be because it works for us…

There is some more reading that gets done in the day, and even on non-school days.  But there is not a fixed time for it.  Before lunch, after lunch or even at bedtime, are all good times.

• Read-aloud – from classic or good modern children’s literature in English or French
• Antonia’s reading – suitable books in English or French selected with my help (these are her ’school’ books.  She reads quite a bit at other times, but I don’t count it, or take too much notice of what she’s reading)

We generally go out in the afternoon for a nature walk, a field trip, an activity, errand or to play with other kids.  But if it’s raining, we might cook or do an art or craft project or play board games.

Once we get back, or during the afternoon if it is raining, there are two other things to do:

• Piano practice – 15 to 20 minutes.  Once a week this is a more extended music lesson, in which we study reading music and new piano material.
• French writing exercise – this sounds really schoolish and should perhaps be in the first part of our day, but she usually doesn’t have the energy – 10 to infinity minutes depending on energy level.  I think it needs to be done though.  During this time, I have my bath!

Apart from that there is an extended art study once a week, which is a bit eclectic.  It might be picture study with narration and copying.  It might be GeeGuides.  How long it takes is rather variable.  There is also Chinese which often consists of listening to the CD in the car, but every so often, we need to sit down and do something a little more precise.

Other educational things go on all the time, but these are the ones we pay conscious attention to.

Antonia chose to go to summer camp for 3 days this week, and this was the first.  Of course, I have a whole bunch of ambitions for my 3-day break: clean the floors so you could eat off them, finish my translation, indulge in some intellectual pursuits…  However, Mike got hold of me and we spent half the day in necessary financio-administrative stuff.  Tomorrow, we are going out for lunch together all by ourselves.

Anyhow, it seems that Antonia had a good time today.  She got home in time to have a bath, eat, and go to bed.  This is the first night she has wanted to sleep in our bed for months.  I guess she feels she didn’t get her parent time.   I kind of have mixed feelings about the summer camp – I would hate her to decide she wanted to go to school, because I think educationally and socially it is not a great thing.  On the other hand, I would be happy for her to spend more time with groups of children, if it can be reasonably free play orientated.

One of the ways I work is to try to establish habits of doing certain things, rather than having lessons per se.  So we have a habit of reading, a habit of drawing and now I am helping Antonia establish a habit of writing.  Before I go any further, I should say that ‘lessons’ were a pre-requisite to this habit.  On the other hand lessons do get in the way of living habits, so a balance has to be found.  In Antonia’s kindergarten year we regularly spent 10 minutes a day on handwriting practice.  Last year, we got the most common spelling words down, though we crammed this into about 6 weeks and did it orally.  Now Antonia can pretty much write, not perfectly, but well enough, at least in English.  The lessons aren’t over, because we’re going to start touch-typing as soon as I think it will reasonably fit in our schedule (maybe when her multiplication tables are all done, which will be soon).

Once she could write I bought her a pretty journal book, and she began to write in it four or five times a week.  My job is to make times for her to do this, but she writes whatever she likes.  Now that she understands what ’spelling’ means, she usually asks me about any word she is unsure of.  She has also learned a lot of punctuation along the way.  It’s kind of fascinating to see your own child expressing herself in writing, if you are a parent that is!  So I’m going to indulge and record some of the things she came out with.  The first was a story in 16 parts.  It fell apart a bit at the end, but it started pretty well, so here are just the first nine parts:

“There was once a little dog.  She liked her bone.  There was also a fox who liked bones.  One night the fox stole her bone.  In the morning she wanted her bone.  She saw that her bone was gone!  It was lucky she had another bone.  The next night the fox came again!  He stole the second bone!  It was a trap.  The dog bounced onto the fox.  The fox ran away.  The next day the fox stole all her forty-five bones.  She was very sad.

Very soon the dog went to find the fox.  She was planning a revenge.  She found the fox!  She jumped onto him.  “Grrrr!” said the dog.  They had a battle.  The fox won.  The dog had a cut.  The fight was not finished.  The dog won the second part.  The fox scowled.  The dog got her forty seven bones back.  Then the fox’s wife came out and screamed.  She said “I love you”.  She ran to the dog.  “What!” screamed the fox.  Then super-rabbit came along.  She pounced onto the fox.  The dog had time to run away with the fox’s wife.”

Then we have nature observations:

Be a bee
A wasp nest is under my garden steps.  I do not know how it got there!  Should I ask them?  Maybe not.

Passages about what she has learned:

Egypt
Egypt is a nice place.  I like the Sphinx.  The Sphinx is bigger than you.  It is there to scare people off pyramids.  Its body looks like a lion.  Its head looks like a pharoah’s head.

Or authobiographical details:

All about me
I homeschool.  My Mummy homeschools me.  I learn several things in a day.  My Mummy does not always help me.  

I am not sure that that last sentence is not a reproach!